The 3 Paradoxes of Great Lovemaking

These 3 mistakes all come from the "land of good
intentions", but still, they wreak merciless havoc
on the lives of countless men.


I'm referring to the following:


1. The Paradox of Trying Too Hard
2. The Paradox of Thinking Too Much
3. The Paradox of the Simple Moves




1. THE PARADOX OF TRYING TOO HARD


Great sex will always be about FLOW.


One doesn't need to press for it, trying too hard
on any area will cause you to mess it up that's a
guarantee. The tragedy is that most men don't even
see this one coming and end up working against
themselves the harder they try, the harder it
becomes.


One of the temptations of having too many tricks in
the bag is to unleash them in a grand overflow and
put on a show. Needless to say, you'll reek of the
'trying too hard' vibe. Instead of dazzling Eve,
you'll turn her off for the vibe masks a specific
fear the fear of inadequacy, that nagging feeling
of not being good enough.


You're afraid she won't have a great time unless
you pleasure the brains out of her, so you feel
compelled to unleash every physical technique to
compensate for a personal issue.


Like I said, this will backfire.


You don't need to do everything don't be an
overeager yes-man. The rookie mistake here is
trying too hard to please every woman, every time,
with the hopes of being the best she's ever had.
You'll end up pleasing nobody. Instead, learn to
lean back and let sexual excellence come to you.




2. THE PARADOX OF THINKING TOO MUCH


Great sex is always UNCONSCIOUS; it's not logical
or rational.


The bedroom is not the place to think, and the
absolute worst time to contemplate your
insecurities, sexual hang-ups and skills. Deal with
them BEFORE your next carnal encounter and AFTER
your last one... NEVER DURING.


Calibrate... but don't thresh-out psychological
issues in the heat of things. Self consciousness
and self-talk pull you out of the moment and into a
negative spiral where you become sexually
ineffective and out of touch.


Don't be overly concerned with the mechanics and
metrics of intercourse like the exact pressure or
angle of your hand, or the direction of your
thrusts. When it comes to the real thing -- stop
thinking -- focus on your partner and immerse in
the moment.


Don't plan every move as if sex is a series of
perfectly executed maneuvers. When you over-think
things, you'll mess up. The best crane operators
don't analyze every step... they just do it, the
moves have become 2nd to nature.


If you think too much, I assure you that the sex
will get worse instead of enjoying, you'll be too
busy figuring out the next best move. Just enjoy
the process, take it easy and don't be too hard on
yourself.


It goes without saying that one doesn't have to gun
for sexual perfection... there's no such thing.
Afford yourself some mistakes and don't make a big
deal out of it. This is very, very important.




3. THE PARADOX OF THE SIMPLE MOVES


Great sex will always about the SIMPLE MOVES.


It is the aggregate of simple things, done in the
right way and at the right time, that makes the
world of difference. You have to drive that one in
your head. THERE ARE NO BIG TRICKS.


This is not about big moves or magic techniques
it's about the snowballing of easy to do maneuvers.
The biggest lesson here is understanding that it's
the small things that truly matter. It's not about
making extensive changes to your game, but simply
tweaking it.


It's learning to feel not just with your hands, but
with your fingertips. It's being in-tune not just
for her screams, but even to her breathing. Not
just about writhing bodies but little twitches.


Great sex is simple, ('simple' doesn't mean
'boring'), it's not replete with shock-and-awe. The
road to sexual greatness is not some hidden mythic
trick, for the most elegant and effective moves
have never been kept secret, they have always been
there.


They just have been overlooked... if not forgotten.
Being unpretentious, they easily pass off as
insignificant.


So there you have it, The paradox of trying too
hard, thinking too much and simple moves. Remember
these three concepts when making love next time and
you'll come across much more confident, sexy and
natural.